tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post934056184074477609..comments2023-09-19T11:02:50.976-04:00Comments on Ob/Gyn Kenobi: Overheard in a Beauty Salondr. whoo?http://www.blogger.com/profile/10315615480530297472noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-86466403423774238332011-07-08T14:40:05.276-04:002011-07-08T14:40:05.276-04:00Wow, surprised you didn't pipe up and set that...Wow, surprised you didn't pipe up and set that idiot straight!Hisham Solimanhttp://psychiatrist-sacramento.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-41190355449085604772011-01-22T12:58:26.299-05:002011-01-22T12:58:26.299-05:00hey there good understanding details sharing, anti...hey there good understanding details sharing, anticipate this can be really a good choice for everyoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-50640923961024094122010-04-03T12:29:43.125-04:002010-04-03T12:29:43.125-04:00Coming on the scene late...Kayce Pearson made a co...Coming on the scene late...Kayce Pearson made a comment I'd like to echo:<br /><br /><i>Its so easy to judge this woman for her stupidity, ignorance, or lack of love for her child. But if u look at the entire situation, maybe she is dealing the only way she can. By pretending nothing is wrong.</i><br /><br />Psych professionals call this 'escapist coping.' 50 cent words aside, it's not difficult to understand why some people run from change. Change is difficult - and it often takes work. Some people don't have the strength of character or motivation to face the challenges of pregnancy and birth, but some of those people try to become parents despite those hurdles to cross, and that's why they need the support of compassionate, educated and experienced birth professionals.Erinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07835870317724952186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-90904526204814767702010-02-22T20:07:41.997-05:002010-02-22T20:07:41.997-05:00Wow. I wish I could say that I don't believe ...Wow. I wish I could say that I don't believe someone would be so flippant...but I've seen it myself. There was a woman in my church who had 2 babies at 34 weeks--NICU time for both of them. With her 3rd she called me up all frustrated because her OB--a different one from her first two pregnancies because she had moved 90 miles away--would not do an elective induction at 36 weeks. Her boys had been "okay" at 34 weeks--at least eventually they had...so what was so bad about 36?<br /><br />I later learned that after I tried to convince her to wait for labor--even pulling scripture into it because she was a pastor's wife--she called up her old OB, pleaded sentimentality and wanting to have the same OB, and got her elective induction at 37 weeks. Can't say I was TOO shocked though, as she was the most miserable pregnant person I knew.Knitted in the Wombhttp://www.knittedinthewomb.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-41093723080721730762009-12-30T08:56:48.021-05:002009-12-30T08:56:48.021-05:00Hi OB/Gyn,
First off, I'm new to these sorts ...Hi OB/Gyn,<br /><br />First off, I'm new to these sorts of blogs, but am always amazed at the clever pseudonyms! <br /><br />Second, I work for a training company that's developing a project on smoking addiction/cessation. We're looking to interview an OB/GYN about how/if smoking addiction is addressed by OB/GYNs when seeing women who may become pregnant. You seem to enjoy discussing your experiences. If you'd like to participate in a phone interview, we would be grateful! I can send you details about the process, but I will tell you up front that we are looking to collect more general information, with strict respect for HIPAA regulations. <br /><br />If you, or if any OB/GYN peers or colleagues, would be interested in being interviewed, please let me know. We offer $225 for about 1-1.5 hours over the phone. <br /><br />You can reach me at ckiley@red-nucleus.com or (609) 475-1191 (NJ).<br /><br />Thanks and Happy New Year!Caycenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-42680492970564876342009-12-02T12:52:59.668-05:002009-12-02T12:52:59.668-05:00I can understand thinking this woman is clueless o...I can understand thinking this woman is clueless or ignorant. I used to be a woman like her! I consented to a procedure at 37 wks and didn't have an qualms about my baby maybe being early. She was and had to be in the NICU for a week. It was the worst week of my life. I didn't feel a connection to my daughter at all. I spent more time out of the hospital than in it with her. I actually had thoughts of 'if they switched babies on accident, I would never know since I didn't meet my daughter until 8 hrs after her birth'.<br /><br />Its so easy to judge this woman for her stupidity, ignorance, or lack of love for her child. But if u look at the entire situation, maybe she is dealing the only way she can. By pretending nothing is wrong. That's what I did with my NICU baby and it ended up becoming PPD and PTSD.<br /><br />I know there are tons of women that would kill to have a baby go to 32 wks. I am one of them. But that doesn't mean you can know what this woman is thinking and why she is doing what she is doing. Maybe looking well and other things is what keeps her from crying and regretting.<br /><br />I think this is a good lesson to everyone to maybe think about the backstory a little before you say her tubes should be tied. The NICU is a very hard place for a parent. You feel in the way since you aren't the one truly caring for your baby.Kaycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04656467879424134893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-56839427976220564622009-11-23T21:44:24.828-05:002009-11-23T21:44:24.828-05:00Her poor children.Her poor children.Amie Simmonshttp://louloupink.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-49067863700006864822009-11-22T22:14:08.175-05:002009-11-22T22:14:08.175-05:00Oh. My. GOD. I delivered all three of my kids earl...Oh. My. GOD. I delivered all three of my kids early (38, 36, and 37 weeks, respectively) due to pe. My third baby spent nine days in the NICU due to TTN. I spent every day going back and forth between my house and the NICU to spend time with my kids at home and my new baby. I can't imagine being flippant about having a baby in the NICU or giving birth early.Jennifer Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16287024012195729114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-70875178371756881222009-11-09T22:38:42.235-05:002009-11-09T22:38:42.235-05:00OMG. I think my head would have exploded or at le...OMG. I think my head would have exploded or at least would have had steam coming out of my ears. My son was born at 35 weeks and luckily did just fine. I was so worried that they had to tell me to take a walk outside to get me away from him during rounds. My friend with PE had her twins at full term and they still ended up in the NICU. <br />My hairdresser that I have been going to for years actually makes sure to schedule me away from some of her more dense clients as she knows I don't suffer stupidity well. I don't immediately spout off since I don't want to ruin her business, but I just can't risk an actual cranial explosion if it gets too bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-61485243688931009362009-11-07T21:44:34.990-05:002009-11-07T21:44:34.990-05:00I'm agreeing with most of the posts here, reco...I'm agreeing with most of the posts here, recognizing that this woman is clearly clueless. But must take exception to this comment:<br /><br />People take pregnancy and birth too much for granted now. Nobody remembers that not so long ago, women and children DIED in childbirth just because of problems like this. We have become so advanced in our ability to care for these people that it's just become routine. So sad.<br /><br />Sorry, folks, "not so long ago" is TODAY. Women and children are dying in childbirth TODAY, in this country, because of preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. Sometimes they're dying b/c their healthcare was inadequate; sometimes they're dying b/c they were not educated about the warning signs to get themselves to care soon enough; and sometimes they're dying b/c PE and HELLP are great masqueraders and sometimes defy easy dx and mgmt. <br /><br />I think Clueless in Salon needed a wake up call as do all women who think they can be so cavalier about pregnancy and childbirth.PF EDhttp://www.preeclampsia.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-42292827932738757932009-10-21T14:36:36.514-04:002009-10-21T14:36:36.514-04:00Oh good lord. That's ridiculous. I'm pro...Oh good lord. That's ridiculous. I'm proud of you for not kicking her in the teeth, Dr. Whoo.Larahttp://www.redredwhine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-62144309459808905382009-10-19T18:12:10.652-04:002009-10-19T18:12:10.652-04:00And I can't understand why some people who com...And I can't understand why some people who come into our triage department at the level III hospital I work at scowl at us, roll their eyes, argue, etc., etc., when we tell them what they don't want to hear, like we're going to try to stop their preterm labor, or that we're not going to admit them and "augment" (they always use the word "induce"), their very early labor when they don't really need to be admitted yet, that there is no benefit to doing a c/section to "just get it out", etc. My favorite was a young woman with twins who we admitted at 28 weeks, contracting like a banshee, 80 percent effaced, 4 cm dilated, who sobbed as she told me "I can't stay. I know my body, and I am not going to have these babies anytime soon"!; not to mention the comments like "My (fill in the blank...sister, aunt, cousin, neighbor, etc.) had a baby at 23 weeks and he/she is just fine!" I of course continue with the "appropriate educational" responses, but inside I'm screaming at them..."Then Why the hell did you come here in the first place if you don't want what we have to offer you!!!!!!!!!" <br /><br />But we're preaching to the choir. I'd like to see that pamphlet from the March of Dimes(and posters too) placed in every beauty salon, fast food restaraunt, Walmart, Target, KMart, and mall in the country. Public service announcements with every television show. Even if somehow the considerable funds for that were possible, I wonder if it would make any difference. Sigh.RedRNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747130379670536066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-6741953966674421342009-10-19T11:19:48.163-04:002009-10-19T11:19:48.163-04:00I can't even formulate words into a coherent s...I can't even formulate words into a coherent sentence that would properly express how... ugh. RIDICULOUS! some people can be. <br /><br />On a happy note- I am a new reader and am really enjoying everything from the very beginning. I think you must *force* Mr. Whoo to write a blog. My girlfriend is not keen on the idea of late nights alone and I've no advice for her!!! Oh Mr. WHOOOOOOOOO! We're pining for YOUUUUUUU.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-11808296504890047522009-10-18T20:45:38.369-04:002009-10-18T20:45:38.369-04:00As someone who cried her way into the OR eight wee...As someone who cried her way into the OR eight weeks early, this really pissed me off. <br /><br />When will we finally demand parenting licenses before allowing pregnancy?Fat Doctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09672076019531106668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-16724048092508560702009-10-18T19:00:48.010-04:002009-10-18T19:00:48.010-04:00You did the right thing being quiet.
My stylist ...You did the right thing being quiet. <br /><br />My stylist is into some weird thing with coffee enemas. <br /><br />Anyways, people only tell the story they want people to hear in places like that. <br /><br />I second the advice about the sulfate free shampoo. Target or Walmart carries the L'Oreal type. It's in a pink-silver tube.gingerbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-50510088653114126762009-10-13T09:28:54.973-04:002009-10-13T09:28:54.973-04:00The beauty shop would be an excellent place to sta...The beauty shop would be an excellent place to start an educational campaign for preterm birth. Many women just don't know and if their doctors or nurses don't take the time to teach them where would they learn? Most women want to be good mothers, we should assume this of this woman too.DCPatienthttp://www.dcpatient.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-2131943071603705372009-10-12T18:54:40.252-04:002009-10-12T18:54:40.252-04:00The label is appropriate-- People are a-holes. It...The label is appropriate-- People are a-holes. It's interesting how children have become a sort of fashion statement... an accessory... instead of the cherished little creatures they should be.Fizzlemedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05060871201385849757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-34900736460754235952009-10-10T17:44:28.552-04:002009-10-10T17:44:28.552-04:00I agree that this story is sad, and this woman com...I agree that this story is sad, and this woman completely clueless. However, on a less serious note, I have to agree with Eric-- Your highlights would last a lot longer if you used better quality shampoo. <br /><br />I enjoy the blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-90761681850032997112009-10-08T15:43:22.082-04:002009-10-08T15:43:22.082-04:00Wow, some strong comments.
I agree this particula...Wow, some strong comments.<br /><br />I agree this particular woman sounds like what our office staff would call "a piece of work". I recognize this "type" of patient and, if I'm honest, it is extremely easy to judge and categorize them as soon as they walk through the door. If I am more honest, this can most definitely lead to my not explaining things as well as I could. I might start out very patient and understanding, but gradually lose that patience and become frustrated as she challenges everything I suggest. In the end we all end up talking about her behind her back, and some not-so-nice things get said. ("she's so crazy, I can't even be bothered to try and explain Mag to her again, let's just start it" I might say to a nurse). <br /><br />Further, if she's already been pre-eclamptic in previous pregnancies, there's (a) a chart documenting that she was "noncompliant" and "a whiner" previously and (b) perhaps an assumption, from patient & physician, that she knows what the drill is and doesn't need it explained again -- this however is assuming that it was explained well in her previous pregnancies, which I'm guessing it wasn't. <br /><br />I'm a family doctor with small kids and so hear a LOT of stories from patients who have seen specialists, from other parents and from strangers as I'm out and about. Over the years I've learned that the biggest lessons aren't usually what did or didn't happen (because who knows, really, unless you have the chart in your hands), but what people understood was happening and how they perceived decisions to be made. <br /><br />To me, this woman sounds like she was very dissociated from the whole experience, poorly educated around what was going on, and felt extremely powerless and ignored throughout her whole ordeal. Is she stupid, ignorant and clueless as well? I guess so, but there is a lot more to see in this story, IMHO.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-30003366309004024932009-10-07T21:39:25.652-04:002009-10-07T21:39:25.652-04:00OH MY GOD!!!! Seriously? What the hell is wrong wi...OH MY GOD!!!! Seriously? What the hell is wrong with this woman? I had partial hellp with my first daughter and severe pe. Partial hellp because my platelets were ok but my liver enzymes were insane and I had hemolysis. I almost died with my daughter. I have had pe every time (three pregnancies) and I have NEVER wanted my children born early. They were not that early at 35 and 36 weeks! They NEED that time to full time in the womb. She is out and about while the baby was in the NICU? My daughter was readmitted at 4 days old for severe jaundice and dh and I did not leave her side for a second. Someone was ALWAYS with her. I had to leave for the first 2 days while she was in because I had severe pih with her and was on bedrest (and someone told the nursing staff I was supposed to be in bed for severe pih). When I could I came up there with her and stayed in a bed next to her crib. <br /><br />They are checking her bloodwork for toxicity and to make sure her condition isn't worse! That awful drug SAVED her life. <br /><br />Unbelievable. <br /><br />Yeah and pisses me off when people tell me how lucky I am not to have to go through the last month of pregnancy (coming from the receptionist at my ob's office. I wanted to smack her!).A Lupie Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06618715500094103713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-29684167964743220252009-10-07T11:45:58.198-04:002009-10-07T11:45:58.198-04:00Just unbelievable.Just unbelievable.Laurahttp://www.mnrn.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-52902572628787637832009-10-07T10:21:53.342-04:002009-10-07T10:21:53.342-04:00I'd like to slap that woman. My premie died a...I'd like to slap that woman. My premie died and she's "glad" she delivered early? What an ignorant bitch!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-1231217520169997492009-10-07T00:24:18.725-04:002009-10-07T00:24:18.725-04:00Wow! I too, am speechless. I'm a mom of a fo...Wow! I too, am speechless. I'm a mom of a former 32 weeker. My husband and I spent every waking moment in the NICU. I gained over 80lbs due to preeclampsia and how I looked was the least of my concerns.<br /> My second child was delivered via C-section after 10 weeks of bed rest at 36 weeks due to many complications. We barely escaped the NICU with her. <br /><br />I volunteer in the NICU here in PDX as a parent of a NICU graduate supporting parents with babies in the NICU. <br /><br />It's because of my personal experience, I'm on my way to becoming a NICU nurse!Kendranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-16264569110984833452009-10-06T05:53:45.729-04:002009-10-06T05:53:45.729-04:00I'm not a doctor or nurse, but as the mum of a...I'm not a doctor or nurse, but as the mum of an ex 27 weeker with significant special needs (due to severe TTTS & IUGR) I would NOT have been able to be quiet if I had overheard this conversation. I would have given my right arm to get to 32 weeks!!!<br /><br />I also could never imagine spending time at the hairdresser while my baby was in the NICU having apnoeas.Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793960049542281502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31146535.post-74895802010689940122009-10-05T23:24:14.028-04:002009-10-05T23:24:14.028-04:00This reminds me of the story a med school friend t...This reminds me of the story a med school friend told me about a women who came into the free clinic and swore she was using safe sex practices and then had a sperm reported in her UA. On careful questioning, it turned out she had no concept what that meant.<br /><br />Some people have no clue. Clearly that's the case here - but I also wonder if this isn't the false bravado of someone who has experienced something terrifying and has no real way of dealing with it and slips into some sort of denial about the whole thing. This woman is not equipt to make good decisions for herself or her child and that's why discussions of informed consent sometimes seem like nothing more than wishful thinking. Can this person who so clearly does not understand the gravity of her situation really consent to what she does not understand?Ivorynoreply@blogger.com